Love and Self-Actualization

If you’ve ever been on an airplane, you may recall the flight attendants instructing that in case of an emergency, all passengers must first place an oxygen mask on themselves before assisting anyone else.

Similarly, the term self-actualization requires a focus of self, not getting lost in partnership or the expectation of someone else saving you. Self-actualization is the highest level in Maslow hierarchy of needs. Self actualization means striving towards your fullest potential.

Imagine a partner who takes charge of their own happiness and brings their fullest potential (e.g., self awareness, willingness to grow, understanding of how to care for self) into their relationship. The idea of working towards self actualization together, means both partners are caring for themselves (I.e practicing self care and doing the work to heal/grow) which in turn takes pressure or expectation off their partner to fulfill them. To care, heal, and strive for self actualization enables two partners to be their best selves for each other and most importantly, themselves. Be a partner who strives to invest in yourself and seek the opportunities for self improvement which can result in a higher level of self actualization!

Relationships work when both people put their time, energy, and commitment towards self actualization.